Civic EG

Hey guys please help, im stuck,
i've brought an ebay central locking kit with the remote starter.
i found out that it was a negative trigger for my actuators but i tried connecting them so, unlock wire of alarm to unlock wire of central locking, locking wire to locking wire of ...., ground. nothing happens! the actuators dont even budge a bit.

Reverse the wires

i did but it didnt work i dont get how the unlock and lock function works if theirs no power in a negative trigger diagram! okay theres five wires connected to the central locking harness, i spliced the unlock and lock wires and connected it via the alarm wires, i hooked up the alarm's ground wires, then i tried it, nothing happened, all i heard was my horn chirping! any suggestions????

Now I tried again but I only can get the unlock wire working....and if I switch them around nothing works